This 4-week online group coaching program is for adults who are tired of trying to earn love through sacrifice, self-censorship and people pleasing.
You will rebuild your relationship with yourself from the inside out and learn to BE YOUR #1 source of love and validation - while joining a community of like-minded people learning to love without self-abandonment.
Whether you are partnered or single, if you are done with patterns of loneliness, rejection, betrayal or neglect, then this program is for you:
Learn the skills of healthy relating with your Self, and practice re-parenting your inner child, so that you finally feel loved and in love, no matter who comes in or out of your life.
So you can move:
- from irritation, frustration and resentment... to feeling at peace and in emotional clarity
- from feeling stuck in your relationship and seeing no way out… to getting clarity and capacity to build a nourishing version 2.0 with the same partner
- from resenting that you have to do everything on your own… to feeling fully supported in love and in life
- from longing for someone to ease your loneliness... to feeling at home in your own company, whether you are surrounded by people or on your own
I know the frustration of waiting by the phone for a call that can make you feel alive and worthy.
Or to wilt from neglect hoping your partner will initiate connection so you can feel desired again.
I used to wait to be chosen, too.
I wanted to be #1 in my husband’s life, too.
The thing is, when you insist on being #1 in your partner’s life, you are refusing to take responsibility for being #1 in your own life.
You’ve read all the books, listened to all the podcasts, read all of my articles. Maybe you even tried Couples Therapy.
Things may even have felt promising for a week or two, but then it all returns to same old.
Because the information from outside will not bring about change in your life, unless you start creating that change daily.
And it all starts with carving out space for yourself in your life.
And it sounds easy, but is surprizingly difficult in practice.
Because if you’ve had no models to teach you what self-love looks like, or you fear being called selfish, or feel guilty taking time for yourself, you will not be able to do this work on your own.
I’ve seen significant improvement in success rate with keeping a promise to Self practice when clients are in a group setting. The accountability when instilling new habits makes a big difference.
Moreover, facing your Self is what many of us have been avoiding for most of our lives. To venture there it helps to have someone holding your hand, holding a flashlight, rooting for you.
Because whatever you don’t face in you will show up through the mirror of another.
In that mirror you will see reflected the lack of self-love, you will meet the nervous system of your childhood dysfunction, you will feel your wounds and trauma.
And you’ll hate it and you’ll blame them.
I know the frustration of waiting by the phone for a call that can make you feel alive and worthy.
Or to wilt from neglect hoping your partner will initiate connection so you can feel desired again.
I used to wait to be chosen, too.
I wanted to be #1 in my husband’s life, too.
The thing is, when you insist on being #1 in your partner’s life, you are refusing to take responsibility for being #1 in your own life.
You’ve read all the books, listened to all the podcasts, read all of my articles. Maybe you even tried Couples Therapy.
Things may even have felt promising for a week or two, but then it all returns to same old.
Because the information from outside will not bring about change in your life, unless you start creating that change daily.
And it all starts with carving out space for yourself in your life.
And it sounds easy, but is surprizingly difficult in practice.
Because if you’ve had no models to teach you what self-love looks like, or you fear being called selfish, or feel guilty taking time for yourself, you will not be able to do this work on your own.
I’ve seen significant improvement in success rate with keeping a promise to Self practice when clients are in a group setting. The accountability when instilling new habits makes a big difference.
Moreover, facing your Self is what many of us have been avoiding for most of our lives. To venture there it helps to have someone holding your hand, holding a flashlight, rooting for you.
Because whatever you don’t face in you will show up through the mirror of another.
In that mirror you will see reflected the lack of self-love, you will meet the nervous system of your childhood dysfunction, you will feel your wounds and trauma.
And you’ll hate it and you’ll blame them.
I know the frustration of waiting by the phone for a call that can make you feel alive and worthy.
Or to wilt from neglect hoping your partner will initiate connection so you can feel desired again.
I used to wait to be chosen, too.
I wanted to be #1 in my husband’s life, too.
The thing is, when you insist on being #1 in your partner’s life, you are refusing to take responsibility for being #1 in your own life.
You’ve read all the books, listened to all the podcasts, read all of my articles. Maybe you even tried Couples Therapy.
Things may even have felt promising for a week or two, but then it all returns to same old.
Because the information from outside will not bring about change in your life, unless you start creating that change daily.
And it all starts with carving out space for yourself in your life.
And it sounds easy, but is surprizingly difficult in practice.
Because if you’ve had no models to teach you what self-love looks like, or you fear being called selfish, or feel guilty taking time for yourself, you will not be able to do this work on your own.
I’ve seen significant improvement in success rate with keeping a promise to Self practice when clients are in a group setting. The accountability when instilling new habits makes a big difference.
Moreover, facing your Self is what many of us have been avoiding for most of our lives. To venture there it helps to have someone holding your hand, holding a flashlight, rooting for you.
Because whatever you don’t face in you will show up through the mirror of another.
In that mirror you will see reflected the lack of self-love, you will meet the nervous system of your childhood dysfunction, you will feel your wounds and trauma.
And you’ll hate it and you’ll blame them.
STOP squandering your greatest asset in life and relationships – your relationship with Self!
This is your call to come home to your Self, BE YOUR own #1.
STOP squandering your greatest asset
in life and relationships
– your relationship with Self!
This is your call to come home to your Self, BE YOUR own #1.
$497
(for payment plans inquire at info@galinasinger.com)
Expecting your needs to be met by others is often a carryover from childhood, when you depended on caregivers for survival.
As an adult, outsourcing the responsibility for your needs leaves you chronically undernourished.
Becoming #1 in your own life is the greatest gift you can give yourself and your loved ones. When you tend to your own needs, you give to people you care about from overflow. Plus, when you value yourself and your own life, you set the tone for everyone else how to treat you.
Can you imagine...
Waking up with a warm feeling of calm and peace, knowing that you are safe and you are loved?
Smiling as you open your curtains in the morning, thinking “I love my life,” because you built it from your own values and preferences?
Filling your days with doing what you want, when you want and with whom you want, because you know how to listen to your inner boundaries, when to say no and when to say yes?
Finally feeling at peace in your relationship because you understood that the boredom you used to run from is actually your nervous system in regulation and safety, and now you know this is what you want?
No longer fearing conflict, because you know how to repair post-conflict?
Speaking your truth, because your voice matters more than keeping the peace, and because you learned that difficult conversations give you important information about the health of your relationship?
Taking ownership of your own emotions instead of projecting them, understanding they are messengers from your body to you about you?
No longer fearing abandonment or the pain of betrayal, because you know you will never neglect, betray or abandon yourself again?
During this 4-week group Intensive you will learn the essential skills of relating with Self:
- Understand what it truly means to love, respect, and care for yourself
- Develop a healing relationship with your inner child
- Get clarity on what your needs are and learn to take responsibility for them
- Learn how to listen, honor and act on your inner voice
- Know how your nervous system operates and how to regulate it
- Experience what love and safety mean and what they feel like
- De-condition from the pop-culture illusions about love and relationships
Framework
Week 1:
– Introduction to self-awareness (laying foundation for noticing inner patterns via somatic experiencing practice)
– Moving from automatic patterns of self-abandonment to conscious choice via self-attunement & inner resourcing
Week 2:
– Nervous system awareness: understanding stress cycles & regulation tools
– Child development: understanding needs & survival strategy
– Reparenting: a path to wholeness & healing
Week 3:
– Validation versus judgment
– Navigating shame & emotional processing
– Authenticity versus attachment
Week 4:
– Redefining forgiveness
– Self-sourcing safety & love
– Learning to receive: deserving, acceptance & gratitude
THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF:
- you are beginning to see that you are at least partially responsible for the state of your relationships
- you are done performing the “good girl” or “good boy” for approval
- you feel depleted and resentful toward the people you love
- you still feel guilty and selfish to prioritize your dreams
- you are hungry for a community of like-minded people
THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF:
- you think your partner or your parents are solely responsible for your suffering
- you are not willing to show up for yourself consistently
- you are unwilling to explore your inner patterns and parts
HERE IS WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THE PROGRAM:
- Five LIVE calls on zoom
- Daily practices and prompts
- Weekly themes to help you move forward
- A private WhatsApp group for continuous interaction, support and accountability
- A library of resources that will serve you beyond the duration of the program
Hi, I’m Galina Singer
I created Be Your #1 because I saw how many people lose themselves in relationships – not because they are weak, but because their nervous systems learned to secure love through self-abandonment.
Through my own process and years of working with clients, I came to understand that our most important relationship is not the one we are chasing or trying to fix – it’s the one we have with ourselves.
The way we treat ourselves when we feel rejected, anxious, overwhelmed, or unseen becomes the blueprint for how we show up everywhere else.
This work is not about fixing your attachment style or becoming a different person.
It’s about increasing your capacity to stay with yourself, especially when connection with others feels uncertain.
Instead of trying to change other people, we build the internal stability that allows you to choose — how you respond, what you tolerate, and who you become in relationship.
My goal is to empower you with concrete tools that render you self-sufficient, able to source love from within, and gain access to the inner wisdom as a reliable guide.
My goal is not to make you independent from love. It’s to help your nervous system feel safe enough that you no longer have to abandon yourself to receive it.
From that place, decisions become clearer.
Boundaries become cleaner.
Connection becomes mutual.
And love stops feeling like survival.
I created Be Your #1 because I saw how many people lose themselves in relationships – not because they are weak, but because their nervous systems learned to secure love through self-abandonment.
Through my own process and years of working with clients, I came to understand that our most important relationship is not the one we are chasing or trying to fix – it’s the one we have with ourselves.
The way we treat ourselves when we feel rejected, anxious, overwhelmed, or unseen becomes the blueprint for how we show up everywhere else.
This work is not about fixing your attachment style or becoming a different person.
It’s about increasing your capacity to stay with yourself, especially when connection with others feels uncertain.
Instead of trying to change other people, we build the internal stability that allows you to choose — how you respond, what you tolerate, and who you become in relationship.
My goal is to empower you with concrete tools that render you self-sufficient, able to source love from within, and gain access to the inner wisdom as a reliable guide.
My goal is not to make you independent from love. It’s to help your nervous system feel safe enough that you no longer have to abandon yourself to receive it.
From that place, decisions become clearer.
Boundaries become cleaner.
Connection becomes mutual.
And love stops feeling like survival.
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens after I enroll?
We begin on Wednesday, March 25.
As soon as you enroll, you will be included in the list of participants and will be receiving all the pertinent information regarding the program.
When will the course content be available?
We kick off with the first Live call on Wednesday, March 25 at 12:30pm NY time.
The Whatsapp group will be organized that same day and you will start receiving content on Thursday, March 26.
What is the schedule for Live sessions? What if I can’t attend a Live call?
The five sessions will be held on Wednesdays at 12:30pm NY time / 9:30am LA time / 6:30pm Paris time.
The dates for Live calls are March 25, April 1, April 8, April 15, April 22.
All calls will be recorded and recordings and transcripts available the next day.
Will there be any home assignments or exercises?
You will get homework assignments and receive daily journaling prompts and/or pre-recorded somatic exercises from March 25 to April 22.
How will I be supported throughout the program? Will 1-1 sessions be available?
You will have daily support from me and your peers through a private group on Whatsapp.
1-1 calls with me are not included in this program, but you will be able to schedule a private session for additional cost at any time during the program.
What is the refund policy?
Refunds are not available for this program. However, if there are compelling reasons that will prevent you from participation in the program, we will discuss if these funds may be applicable to this program at a future date.
Will I have access to the resources after the program ends?
You will have access to a library of resources and all the recordings of Live sessions, which you will be able to keep beyond the duration of the program.
BECOMING YOUR #1 IS A PROCESS OF LIBERATION.
It is liberation from self-abandonment, from needing to earn love through self-sacrifice and people-pleasing.
In this work I guide you to turn your attention inward, to identify and dismantle the patterns that block your capacity to love and be loved.
Self-loyalty is not selfish. It is how love becomes sustainable.
When we stop unloading our unmet needs and unresolved pain onto others, relationships change. Families change. Culture shifts.
The future of our relationships hinges on our ability to tap into our own love supply.
GALINA SINGER AS FEATURED IN
Columnist for Elephant Journal
Certificate in Somatic Healing and Sexology